For most men, the image of a pair of high-heeled shoes during sexual intercourse can be very stimulating and irritating. But can this be considered a sexual fetish? The answer is that looking at and responding to a relevant irritating image or situation, such as the one described above, does not necessarily signal a heel fetish, for example.
But what exactly do we mean when we refer to fetishes? A fetish can be considered sexual arousal and orgasmic climax in response to an object or part of the body that is not necessarily sexual, such as high-heeled shoes or feet.
It is worth noting that fetishes seem to be more of a male issue than a female one . People who have sex fetishes find the existence or fantasy of the “object of their desire” necessary in order to be sexually aroused, to get an erection and to reach orgasm. A person with a sexual fetish may masturbate while touching, smelling, looking, or “tasting” this object or part of the body that irritates him. He may also ask his sexual partner to wear it or use it during sexual intercourse.
What can be used as a sexual fetish?
In fact, anything can become a fetish, from boots and lingerie to radio junk or car parts! The most common fetishes include body parts (merophilia), such as toes, hair or body features, such as tattoos, earrings in occult areas, such as the clitoris, and even obesity. Toes, however, seem to remain the most popular sexual fetish of men.
What are the most common fetish items?
Fetish objects seem to be less popular than body parts. The most common of these are lingerie , boots , socks and heels .
Among the rarest fetish items are pacifiers, balloons, statues, robots, trees and even teddy bears!
Are there fetishes with the senses?
Fetishes that involve touching and smelling a particular material, such as rubber, leather, or plastic, are quite common.
After all, is it normal to have sexual fetishes?
Sometimes it is difficult to separate a fetishistic behavior from the normal preference for an object during sexual intercourse, such as a man liking his partner wearing certain underwear. Fetishism, however, concerns the object and not the partner who wears it. The main feature is the dependence on the fetish, as the person can not be aroused and reach orgasm without the existence of the fetish object alone.
A sexual fetish does not necessarily substantiate the existence of a disorder, except when it becomes an obsession and causes subjective annoyance, discomfort, as well as a reduction in the sociability and functionality of the individual.
So, when one feels happy and agrees with joy and the erotic partner for the use of the fetish object in the foreplay, then it is not considered a disorder. So a person should say to his partner: “Wear your red heels tonight” and his partner should answer, “Why not?” is very different from saying, “You can sleep in the other room tonight, just leave me your heels here!”